The Challenges of Anger Management

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Anger is the natural emotion humans feel in responding to a perceived threat, frustration, assault or obstruction to our humanity and who we are.
For men, anger is their most common and immediate reaction to the experience of physical or emotional pain and fear.

Often anger will show up most in a man’s relationship with his partner, and this can develop into violence toward her.

For a partner over time she becomes sick of living with fear, intimidation and humiliation, and usually in time, finds the strength to give him an ultimatum “You get fixed or I’ll get out”.

There needs to be a distinction between anger and violence. Anger is an emotion. Violence is what some people might do when they are angry, or even when they are not. Violence can be physical, emotional or spiritual.

For many men their softer emotions of fear and sadness have been covered or not expressed. They have been taught “Be a man. Be strong. Take control of your life – even if you fail. But don’t show your true feelings – especially your pain and fear”. They only have access to their anger. Anger can cover so much of a man’s personal pain.

The good news is that you can solve your anger problem. Not by berating yourself as sick or sinful, but by recognizing yourself as a human being with an emotional life experience as well as a rational one.

The challenge is not really to work against your anger, but to become aware of where it comes from. To take control of your anger and direct what you do with it.

Anger is not about control. It is about loss of control. For most men losing control is painful and fearful. You can feel vulnerable and feel like you’ve failed. Sometime men fear the consequences of losing control more than just about anything else. The pain of failure and the fear of losing control drives much of men’s anger.

The Hart Centre Australia has around 50 Psychologists in centres around Australia ready to help you manage your anger in individual anger management sessions. Contact the Hart Centre Phone 1300830552 for more details anger management and anger counselling.

What are wedding telegrams?

Telegrams are a means of communication by which one party delivers a text-based message to another. Traditionally, one would fill out a form at the post office and have their message transmitted by hand to the post office closest to the intended recipient.

Telegrams are considered a legal document and cannot be denied and the delivery boy requires a signature to confirm the recipient has successfully received it. In total contrast with modern communication, it is a very formal method of communication and although it was often made to be humorous and ironic in the later years, it was considered an official legal document.

History
The traditional definition of telegraphy is the transfer of a message without a direct physical exchange.

The first examples of telegraphy date back to the 18th century using smoke signals, sounds and light. Initially they existed on semaphore lines which are visual signals executed by reflecting light off the blades of towers.

The first electrical telegraph line was first discovered by Samuel F. B. Morse – inventor of the morse code.

Worldwide telegraphy is what changed the language use for news reporting. There wa sa demand for the language to be relatable worldwide and stripped of any colloquial terms and is arguably what began the formal style in which news reports are written.

The art has since progressed into the technological age and now we can send emails and instant messages all over the globe without even acknowledging the hidden coding and processes behind it.

Although we have evolved heavily since our ancestors’ smoke signals and light reflections, the online method of communication we have adopted could still technically be considered a method of telegraphy.

Wedding Customs
The telegram’s modern use is a formal method of communication for events – weddings, deaths, condolences, graduations, congratulations – including invitations and rejections.

The Telex machine was generally set up in post offices and one would have their wedding invitation or message captured using the Baudot Code (a five bit system) and carried to the next post office via telegraph wire or radio system. It would then be printed and delivered to the recipient.

If someone were to decline an invitation to a wedding, it was often considered custom to send the wedding telegram message via wedding telegram to the best man, this was then read out at the wedding reception.

This allowed a formal and social way of allowing the people who couldn’t make it to still have their messages of hope and congratulations to be relayed to the whole reception.

The Typical Queenslander Style Home

When you think of a typical Queenslander, apart from the massive stilts and open-plan design, one of the most recognisable qualities is the corrugated iron roof.

Since the 1840s when Australia was first developing, corrugated iron has been considered one of the best materials to use for roofing. Because of it’s lightweight, sturdy properties, it is the ideal material to use in terms of easy transportation and construction as well as protection.

Although it is a relatively strong, fire proof and weather-resistant material, if exposed to water (particularly salt) rusting is inevitable. This is why it is extremely important to coat the steel in a layer of paint in order for it to remain protected.

Even today this roofing remains to be one of the most popular choices in materials for a range of reasons. Its flexibility, strength and thin sizing allows for quick repairs, relatively cheap installation and durability with little maintenance.

Apart from the practical side of things, there is also the aesthetics. The typically 3 inch curves rolling into one another create a very symmetrical feel, breaking up the angles of the rest of the house and creating a harmonious contrast.

Since iron is quite a durable material itself, compared to wood it is very easy to prepare for installation. Instead of needing to purchase an expensive sealant, a few layers of paint will generally be enough to prevent any damage.

One aspect of corrugated iron that can pose a genuine issue is the fact that the wavelengths of most sounds are echoed loudly into the tube of the corrugated iron. This means that any noise close to or coming into contact with the roof is going to release a high pitched “ping”. This can be a genuine issue for Queenslanders as falling tree branches and wildlife are a part of our every day lives.

On the other hand, the echo can be the perfect culprit to amplify raindrops into a soothing lullaby and because of the shape of the typically 3 inch tubing and smoothness of the iron, the water runs straight down and off the roof, making cleaning very manageable. Also because it is a very thin material it allows the house to stay cool in the warm summers, making it the ideal choice for a house in Queensland. For roof restoration Brisbane, contact Retro Roof Restoration.

The iron sheets themselves are relatively cheap and can be purchased with a coat of Colorbond or made galvanised to order. They range from around 5 to 45 dollars per sheet depending on the size of the sheet and what coating you have selected.

Compared with other common roofing materials such as clay, slate, concrete, wood, Spanish and asphalt, corrugated iron is often said to be one of the most durable and certainly one of the most cost-effective.

So whether it’s the classic sound of rain on the tin roof, or the practical desires of someone looking for a sturdy home, or anyone who doesn’t want to waste their precious pennies, it is no surprise that corrugated iron is one of the most popular choices in Queensland.

How to stop the flood of election junk mail?

Wherever you live in the world, whether it is a State, Presidential, Federal or Local Council election, your mailbox will groan with the weight of materials aimed at getting your vote. It might be the digital age, but it seems that a letter in your letterbox is still considered the most efficient way of getting a message across.

While an informed electorate is essential to the democratic process, there appears to be huge over-sending of junk mail for political purposes – and no clear way on how to fix this. What’s worse, the content of most of the political flyers is simply mudslinging about their opponents with little to no substance. Is anyone else reminded of children in the playground?

How can you help stop this unnecessary waste of resources? Imagine the strain on our environment and the large volume of greenhouse gases generated from all the trees cut down, printing, electricity and transport of the materials. Grab a cup of tea or your water bottle and let’s get down to it.

We know in Australia that material that is deemed to be political, educational, religious and charitable is exempt from “No Junk Mail” signed letterboxes according to standards developed by the Australian Catalogue Association. So there is no way to stop it being posted in your letterbox along with the other junk mail catalogues enticing you to buy all sorts of things you don’t really need. It is likely the same in other countries.

Step 1. Incorrectly addressed political mail
Much of your mail may be addressed to former occupants of the house. You need to “return this to sender” with the note “no longer at this address”.

Step 2. Contact every political party or politician that is mailing you
There is no central database so you will need to call the office of each individual sender and ask to be removed from their mailing list. Remember to be polite! You catch more bees with honey than vinegar.

Step 3. National Standard to stop political junk mail
Write a letter to the Electoral Commission asking them to implement a National Standard to limit the volume of pieces each political party is allowed to put in each household’s letterbox.

Step 4. Polling day
Don’t forget to recycle any materials you are given on the day – often the Greens Party has a box at the booths for such materials on polling day!

Written by Tracey Bailey, Director of Biome Eco Stores in Brisbane, specialists in water bottles and eco friendly, reusable choices for your home, body and lifestyle.

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